May 23, 2010


Mark Hinson is one of my favorite writers in the Democrat. He always makes me FEEL something when I read his articles. Today he wrote about attending the funeral of a High School friend and I found it ironic, that today I too was going to say goodbye to a friend who had just died: Jayne Linda Free. She was only 51¢ would have been 52 in a couple months.

Jayne and I go way back-over 30 years I think. We were never best friends, but yet the kind of friend who withstood time. A friend you could call and catch up with and it was like you were never apart. A friend you know cared about you no matter how rotten you felt about yourself, or how mad you were about something¢â¬¦she was always THERE. (Jayne Linda didn’t do bad things like I did, so she never had anything to confess!) She loved this old “cussin” Christain anyway.

Today I spent time thinking about what the components of friendship were because that is what Jayne Linda gave so freely: friendship.

One of my favorite quotes that best defines a friend is from Dinah Mulock: “Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort, of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts, nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are-chaff and grain together-certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away. Jayne had to be a hurricane to be my friend!

Having a friend like Jayne Linda was helpful because she taught me how to have faith. Her faith in God seemed to be unwavering. I continue to struggle, but Jayne was full speed ahead in the faith department. She was always up for a talk about it. She was also  Mary Kay Cosmetics. Anyone who knows a REAL Mary Kay person knows every objection can be met. And when I started questioning God Jayne had the answers! She shouldnt have left so soon. We werent done yet.

Jaynes family is amazing. Her mom BJ is like a CAST IRON magnolia the woman is a dynamoand those knew BJs mom can say the same about Grandmama. What a pistol SHE was! Steadfast. True. Kind. Tough. Faithful. Amazing.

These women are INDELIBLE. You cant forget them, you cant wash your hands or your minds of them.

Knowing Jayne has left an indelible mark on my soul. I will miss her so much, but will never forget her voice or her laugh. According to Jayne we will meet again. Hope they have some good margaritas and comfortable chairs.

2 Responses to “Friends”

  1. Jeryl Matlock

    I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. The quote about friendship is amazing! I actually heard it recently and was blown away by it…and it produced the same reaction in me again today. I suspect that by the time it’s over, you will turn out to be that kind of friend (that is, if we can get you to return our phone calls so we can tell you what a good friend you are!):-)


  2. Carole Herold

    I feel as though I’ve missed knowing a very special person. Your love and respect for Jayne Linda speaks volumes. She made a positive impact on those she touched throughout her life and she was right; you will see her again.